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Saturday, March 3, 2012

‘About The Business Of Remaining Alone’


‘About the business of remaining alone’
It is a constant battle.
Well, not so constant….there isn’t always interest…
From my side or theirs.

‘This Business’  
The Battle I wage on myself-
To protect myself
It is so strong and loud inside me.

Most of my life I could just wash ‘THAT MAN OUT OF MY HAIR’
-then the break up came along.
It was 12 years ago that I was suckered into a relationship with the nicest NARCISSIST 
You would ever want to meet.
No.
REALLY.
The perfect’ Doctor Man’ for me.
The man I thought I was supposed to marry.
{but it was also his idea}
I finally let those tall stone walls down around me
and let the man in.  OOOOPS
I loved him completely. I never thought I would do that.
Or frankly….that I could do that.
After a year or so… things got strange.
That’s when the lying started.
And the crazy making began
– people lying to you….will make you crazy.

But to make a hideously long story shorter.
This man BROKE ME.
I will never be the same.
In the past 3 weeks
{Because I am networking -and networking is not my cup of tea}
I have met two men.
One was okay ,
But I had to get rid of him 
for reasons that would make a decent TV movie of the week
-that I don't want to star in.




there are no ridges left in my CD of this song
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And then comes along # 2
I could tell you all the details but the facts of the matter are……
He also is a narcissist …. Insanely charming, charismatic,
Sometimes handsome {this one was}
sexy, and made you feel like you were the only one in the room

By date two
I was beginning to be BUMMED OUT because I knew in my heart…..
This was the danger zone I was entering.

The perfect doctor that I described earlier
Made me doubt any and everything I said and did.
CRAZY MAKING
My self-esteem was flushed down the toilet on a daily basis.
Not to mention….I did not want to wake up.
Not Ever!!!

So, when I saw this image 
it brought back the whole ugly place I was living in!!
And yet it reminded me
….the only way I am safe…..is alone.

PS I do take responsibility for my own short comings, In these failed relationships.
I am better off alone. Mainly because I never get lonely.
What is this girl to do.?

Accept the way I am?
or
Take RISKS.
{i am too fragile emotionally}

I just don’t have what it takes for a relationship.
It is just too compromising.
Yea, that’s it.
Maybe I just don’t want to play by other peoples rules.
Translation: she doesn’t play well with others – IN A ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS

So......What do you have to say to this post????
i am quite exposed.


xx Hugss and lots of them


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I love what I do and cannot imagine my life without Design.

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